Im with ya on the 180 thing.
Luckily mine didnt involve children or longevity...MY money was pretty much insulated but I bought a house and put it both our names (why not we were married). I must have liked the house more than she because she stopped comming home and drinking to excess is an understatment. Anyhow she was still able to get 1/2 the house. Fauker!!
Even with good buy and great realestate gains in northern NJ its gonna be a while before break even.
Very sorry to hear your situation. I dont quite get the courts.