Man, I hate to hear that dude. I feel for you. Been there done that-twice!
I would say go for the kit if, and that's a HUGE IF, you can get along. If you have large assets, business interests, or anything like that at stake, I would get an attorney to protect them.
The kits can leave a lot of open doors for later when someone DOES get pissy (It nearly always happens).
I have heard of two people sitting down toether and working out a list of items they want, conditions, visitation, etc, and sharing an attorney, but it's very very rare.
I received some very good advice from someone during my divorce. they said be generous with the material things, but stingy with your time with your children. You can always make back the money. It suck when I wrtie checks every month, but I share time with the kids 50-50, sometimes more!
That is priceless for me.
I hope that helps.
Keep your chin up, we'll see you at LOTO!!!! Savin' a spot in the Playboy for ya right now!!
Plus, my wife has this friend............