Lawyers definitly have their place in divorce proceedings, but when it comes to child custody, you will find, that EVENTUALLY, your best ally will not be the law, which is normally cut and dry unless there are very extenuating circumstances [no matter how unfit you think the ***** is]. Your best ally is a most unlikely one; your ex wife!! Yes, I know, this easier said than done, but given enough time, dscernment, and desire you will eventually see your child a fair amount of time. Nobody can become his/her father unless you step away. Good Luck, I know how you are feeling....it will get better.