been there my friend. last girl friend of 4 years was a smoker. at the time i was dating her i lost someone very very close to me. my unkle was diagnosed with lung cancer around thaksgiving of 2000 he died about 4 months later. held his hand after he was taken off life support and watched the heart rate go down to zero, now i knew my girlfriend was a smoker when we started dating but things changed for me that day. ultimatly it became a big problem. i wanted to spend the rest of my life with her but i wasnt going to take a chance on going through what i went through with my unkle. at first i tried to encourage her to quit (impossible to do without being the "bad guy") but it eventually became a losing battle and her last words to me on the subject were " honestly its none of your buisness . . you knew i smoked when we started dating" well that pretty much did it for me and we split up. shes right . . its none of my buisness now. i still see her once in a while and she still smokes, its a shame because shes a wonderful girl. please dont get me wrong, i have nothing against people who smoke. if you wanna . . thats fine, have a ball. i just cant have it in my life. not now.
mnfast, you dont have to feel bad about telling her its somthing you really dont want to be around. maybe it will be a small bit of reality that will help her quit someday. maybe . . maybe not. at any rate i"m with you. . . just rather not be around it if i can help it.