Ya know...reading this thread made me glad I have the friends I do. We (JB and I) generally go out as a couple or as a family and meet others with boats. When we go out with friends, we never have to ask them to take off shoes or anything of the sort. They watch us do it and they do it too without being asked. We've never had someone decide to walk along the deck (where would they be going up there anyway??). We must have really good friends on levels I never thouugt to give them credit for.
My only beyitch is when it comes time to dock...the fenders are under the seat and they have to move. Not a big deal. Happens to everyone.
It sounds to me like some of you have "black hole" types of friends with no respect for anything.