ok.....you recent bachlors....
 

Tell me how your getting over your breakup.. I thought I was fine, it's been 3 days, but I am headed down hill. I try to keep my mind on something else always, but the memories seem to slip into my thoughts.. I replaced all her pictures with pics of the boats and trucks. I keep my self busy with projects in the barn to pass the time. I knew this was best for me, was to let her go... I am trying to chase my dream like my grandfather told me and she was standing in the way... but i feel guilty for doing it... I am even talkin to a new girl and i still keep thinkin about the little lady. I find myself sittin on here chating on OSO alot and not careing about school much, this is the last class and i am done, so i don't want to screw this up. How are you guy's getting through it..

Thanks

Travis :(

If you miss her that bad go back and get her :)

Hang in there traviss, things will get better with time,Think with your Head, not your heart.

Hey Man,

Been there several times. First of all there is no magic pill or potion or brew, it's time...time and more time. In a few more days you will sleep better , then in a few weeks you won't be thinking about her all 18 waking hours and so on.

It helps to stay active, go out with friends, do what you enjoy. Winter is tough because on the more limited activities, also it helps to get back in the game, a new interest or chase sure helps, even though it won't cure the hurt right away. Any female companionship helps even if it's just a good friend, a dinner, move, some darts, whatever it all helps. Being alone is the worst, no distractions, if your working on your boat or a motor or what ever have a friend or 2 over, you'll talk about boats, motors, some other broad with big boobs, how much school, your boss or you job sucks, what ever. But if you sit around alone you will dwell on the past.

I feel your pain dude, it probably won't be the last unless you are real lucky and it never is any easier.

Hang in there! Others will come to your aid!

Now I see what's goin on.......okay I understand.......Cool

Well to the point at hand.....What you are dealing with is the difficult part....

This just a sign you actually have a heart...so keep that in mind.... ;)

But how to deal withit I surely don't know

But what I do know is.....don't lose focus of the point.......and I think in your case that would be not getting in trouble and concentrating on school......am I right??

The best cure for a broken heart and lonleiness is .....I hate to say this....another girl

but it seems to always be the wrong time to find another one.........

Trust me buddy I KNOW this tugs and tugs at ya.........now try it when she calls everyday and tells you she loves you.....

That will F with ya......big time

Time will heal all wounds my friend.....


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porn :D

hey just tryin to help.

Just jerk off and go to bed ya wimp!! ;)

[QUOTE]Originally posted by traviss:
I keep my self busy with projects in the barn to pass the time.

sorry man, could not resist.

Hang in there buddy :)

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Dude it sucks. Twice I thought that I found "the one" Twice I guess I was wrong. I keep bussy and do not try and fight the thoughts about her. You do not want to rush into another chick right away as you have to deal with your feelings first. Hang in there bro you will get better every day and eventually be ready to move on!!! :D :D

Jon

I totally agree with Audio......rebound chicks/sex just DOESN't work.... :( . Only time works. Been there more times than I care to admit. :rolleyes: :rolleyes: . I know it really hurts now....but one day you'll wake up and...poof...she doen't occupy your every waking thought. At that point, it gets better every day... :D :D

Chin up buddy.....it's all uphill from here.

Once more.....whatta an ass!!!!!!!! :rolleyes:

From a different perspective (I too have been around this block a few times)...if you felt some form of immediate relief (mentally) when it ended, the right thing happened. If not, then ??

Also, maybe what was lost was not the girl; rather, it was "hope" for a future. Now, that hope is gone at least for now. Kinda philosophical, I know, but in this perspective, it is easier to sort thru it. Good luck.

Sorry Liquid Asset and Gasm...Dont go back and get her and dont try to get over her with another girl...Its not a bad thing that you hold on to memories, that is what they are there for...you are the person you are because of the experiences that you have had...just because you are not together isnt a bad thing...you said it yourself Trav, you did what was best(for both of you)...try and stay focused on what is important to you at the moment...and if she is the one there will be a better time...hang in there...its tough, but in the end it will be worth it...or so I am told

been doing the same thing for a year and a half, so I would not be much help, just hang in there and hope that you do not hurt as bad.

Life is a mystery to be lived not a problem to be solved!! :rolleyes: ;) :rolleyes:

When I went thru my divorce many years ago, I was absolutely devistated. Some old man in the bar told me the only advice he could give me was to keep the beer cold and the music loud. It was poor advice, after spending three years without drawing a sober breath, things hadn't gotten any better.

All I know is that it takes time, lots of time. Little by little, the thoughts of her will consume less and less of your life. AFter about the fourth year, I was pretty much good. I still miss her and would marry her again tomorrow, but that is another story.

How much does all this counseling cost? :D :D

Are you still chasing your dreams? That should be something to look forward to! This must be the start of the new generation that men can express their emotions. :eek: :D

The old days we used the 4F approuch
1)find them
2) feel them
3)f^$k them
4)FORGET them!!!

Nothing wrong with rebound Sex! :D :D :D

wow thanks everybody... I was really down last night when I posted this.. I am doing great today, have a few projects to finish today and get my hair cut, so I look good for the new girl. I guess it just takes time. We'll see how it goes. :)

Flylevel.... rebound sex :D :D


Thanks again everyone... this place is great

Travis :)

Hmmm...always funny how the light of day makes the night before seem less important and distant, huh? But, it's going to turn into night time again and you'll be back to where you were last night. Just remember that things aren't always as bad and bleak as you might think it is.
Stay focused on your immediate short term goals. Write them down and tape them somewhere you can see them. Stay busy! That's the absolute best cure for getting over somebody. If you don't have idle time you don't have time to dwell on missing the young lady.
I personally don't think that running out and bangin' some new chick (sorry for the crude language)is a solution...certainly not in these times. I know that's not a "guy thing" to say, but I just don't think it's an answer to your problem. Might just add to it so why bother?
Time will pass and hurt will fade. Just stay focused and stay busy. :) And we're always here for you if you need anything!

[ 01-16-2002: Message edited by: G-Force ]

Hey Traviss, I was almost with ya bro. We worked things out and it was great. I went thru the same things you did. After 3 days of hell I broke down and we talked. This is not the first time this happened but every time we worked it out and things got better. Who knows, you may be down that road yourself. Some days are better than others. If it does not get better you may want to go back. Good luck. :D