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blefever 08-21-2012 11:49 PM

Is this just wrong?
 
Not that I plan on checking out anytime soon, but just thinking it's time to start getting affairs in order.

I've always known that I wanted to be cremated, but haven't thought to much about what to do with my ashes. My wife said whatever I want, she will carry it out...if she outlives me....pretty sure she will!

It seems too normal to just dump my ashes at some place that has been special in my life, like the Lake or River, Sand Dunes or Ocean, and I sure don't want to sit around the house.

So here's the deal. I'm thinking that my request will be to take the ashes and mix them with a gallon of Nitro. Launch my boat into the Pacific Ocean. Dump the "Nitro Ash" into the tank and take me for one last ride......sticks to the pins. My ashes will be effectively spread over the Ocean (this is my favorite place to boat) and I'll get to take one last good look at the inside of the motors as value added.

What do you guys think? Is this just wrong?

PS: The carrying agent could be something other then Nitro, like Beer, Jack, Diet Coke or maybe the most appropriate "Captain Morgan"

Expensive Date 08-21-2012 11:53 PM

You will just get stuck in the fuel filter and then wind up in a landfill. Just be dumped overboard, thats what I want.

HEDGEHOGER 08-22-2012 12:01 AM

deffently takes it to the next level but yeah i have a feeling the fuel filter would capture you ......hopefully

low_psi 08-22-2012 01:00 AM

Not to be a downer here... But definitely make a decision and have a will made out letting your family & friends know what to do with you. My father passed away in his sleep a few years ago in his late 60s.... He never made out a will or even discussed what his final wishes were... It was very hard on me having to decide what to do as I didn't want to do the wrong thing.... It was very difficult and painful. I ended up having him cremated, but still to this day don't know what to do with his remains.... So he is in an urn on top of display case/cabinet in my house, along with a photo of him with my daughter, a cased flag and a letter from the president of the US (my father was a Vietnam vet). So every day I walk by him, I wonder if cremation was the right call. Just so food for thought....... Again sorry to be a downer..

Catmando 08-22-2012 01:15 AM


Originally Posted by low_psi (Post 3759479)
Not to be a downer here... But definitely make a decision and have a will made out letting your family & friends know what to do with you. My father passed away in his sleep a few years ago in his late 60s.... He never made out a will or even discussed what his final wishes were... It was very hard on me having to decide what to do as I didn't want to do the wrong thing.... It was very difficult and painful. I ended up having him cremated, but still to this day don't know what to do with his remains.... So he is in an urn on top of display case/cabinet in my house, along with a photo of him with my daughter, a cased flag and a letter from the president of the US (my father was a Vietnam vet). So every day I walk by him, I wonder if cremation was the right call. Just so food for thought....... Again sorry to be a downer..

Sounds like you did the right thing by your dad. I'm his age and I need to go over my Will to see if I have all my bases covered.

Likefastboats 08-22-2012 01:30 AM

No it is not wrong!!! I love your idea!!!! The fuel filter might be a problem. Just have your wife slowly pour your ashes into the carb or throttle body. I think that would work.
Not that talking about death is a good thing but having your family know what you want is the right thing to do.
I am also glad to see that I'm not alone with wierd ideas about what to do with my ashes. I know I don't want to be in a box 6 ft down, so creamation seems to be the way I want to be disposed off. And yes sitting for eternity on the mantle or shelf somewhere is "Boring"!! So since I have been into Drag Racing my whole life, even did 8 years of Jr. Drag Racing with my kids. I have owned and raced many types of cars in my life but have never had the oportunity to drive a Top Fuel Dragster or Funny Car. That has always been my dream but at this point in my life I'm pretty sure it will never happen, so I have told my wife and kids I would love to have my ashes packed in the chute of one of those cars so when the chute is pulled I will be spread all over the drag strip. Probably seems wierd and wrong to most folks but I'm glad to know that somebody understands. So in closing I think you have a GREAT idea!!!!!!

blefever 08-22-2012 02:07 AM


Originally Posted by Likefastboats (Post 3759491)
No it is not wrong!!! I love your idea!!!! The fuel filter might be a problem. Just have your wife slowly pour your ashes into the carb or throttle body. I think that would work.
Not that talking about death is a good thing but having your family know what you want is the right thing to do.
I am also glad to see that I'm not alone with wierd ideas about what to do with my ashes. I know I don't want to be in a box 6 ft down, so creamation seems to be the way I want to be disposed off. And yes sitting for eternity on the mantle or shelf somewhere is "Boring"!! So since I have been into Drag Racing my whole life, even did 8 years of Jr. Drag Racing with my kids. I have owned and raced many types of cars in my life but have never had the oportunity to drive a Top Fuel Dragster or Funny Car. That has always been my dream but at this point in my life I'm pretty sure it will never happen, so I have told my wife and kids I would love to have my ashes packed in the chute of one of those cars so when the chute is pulled I will be spread all over the drag strip. Probably seems wierd and wrong to most folks but I'm glad to know that somebody understands. So in closing I think you have a GREAT idea!!!!!!

Your idea would be perfect after an "Oil Down" :) I like it. Like you, I love fuel motors, that's why Nitro is my first choice for the carrying agent!

Kurt Hamilton 08-22-2012 03:06 AM

Just remove the fuel filters for the last run! Who is gonna hold the boat pinned for you? Ill come over and do it!

freckles 08-22-2012 05:53 AM

Kudos to you for putting a plan together and telling your spouse. I'd like to make a plug for organ donation, too.

prostock85 08-22-2012 06:01 AM

Just a thought, my fathers ashes were spread from a boat near Barneget light in Jersey. Served 2 purposes, any time I'm in the water I felt with him (going there on the 25th for the anniversary) but it also gave a destination on land for others to visit. The hardest thing with someone being cremated is having no exact place to go visit.

I also remember doing it, went with the family in my grandfathers OB. Said some things, spread ashes and threw in flowers. Not paying much attention, some how one of the flowers ended up back IN the boat, not the engine well but actually in it. Soaked with bay water it's kept and dried to this day (I was 12). Still freaks me out, in a good way.

Indy 08-22-2012 06:26 AM

Just dump me in Long Island Sound.

bulletbob 08-22-2012 06:33 AM

Definately have a will "NOTORIZED" with your wishes for your remains after death. My sperm donor was to cheap to have his will notorized which caused his estate to go into probate. Fortunately, just being me and my sister there was no one to contest the will. He wanted to be creamated and his ashes spread in the gulf. I took his ashes and placed them where the last incoming wave was and then............not one other wave would come in that far to take him out to sea. Karmas' a *****!! Definately consider donating any usable organs to someone in need.

Thanks for the laugh with the fuel filter in the landfill.

drpete3 08-22-2012 07:07 AM

I like ur plan. My dad will be cremated and dumped info the ausable river and my mom wants to go with him. It's been known for years.

I really don't have strong feelings about what is done with me. On the other hand I should make a decision so that I don't leave my faamily wondering what they should have done. It could lead to years of guilt and that is something I don't want

blefever 08-22-2012 09:09 AM


Originally Posted by Kurt Hamilton (Post 3759496)
Just remove the fuel filters for the last run! Who is gonna hold the boat pinned for you? Ill come over and do it!

My son would be the driver, but thanks for offering.

BTW, when I say "Sticks Pined" I don't mean to blow up the motors, just one last Go Fast Ocean ride. I have too much respect for my equipment to intentionally hurt stuff...even after I'm gone :)

blefever 08-22-2012 09:12 AM


Originally Posted by freckles (Post 3759526)
Kudos to you for putting a plan together and telling your spouse. I'd like to make a plug for organ donation, too.

Yep, been on the organ donation list for years.

RIPJIVE9311 08-22-2012 09:14 AM

I had the same basic idea of taking my ashes out and not dumping them below 5400rpm,pin the throttles and when we reach top speed dump me across the lake.I love the idea of going thru the motors but agree the fuel filters may cause a problem and you may have a problem finding someone to let you dump the ashes in their tank.

PhantomChaos 08-22-2012 09:38 AM

Have you seen "ashes" after cremation? It's not just ashes, but also bone fragments and teeth.

Pete B 08-22-2012 09:58 AM

My Mom pass away earlier this year unexpectantly, with no will, however I knew she wished to be cremated. I can say what you see on TV doesnt match what takes place. I wanted to be with my mother thru every process, when the time came to place her remains in a urn I assisted in doing it.

about a month after my mother passed, my aunt her older sister passed away, ( she lived in germany),
my cousin ask if we could combine some of their ashes. we combined some of my mothers and Aunt's, and spread them in my mom's flower garden. we also kept a small amount for my cousin to take to germany, which we will spread where they grew up as children.

johnnyboatman 08-22-2012 10:16 AM

i told my wife to take my ashes and find the fastest boat on texoma get it going real fast and take the lid off and let my ashes spread over the water.

befu 08-22-2012 10:19 AM


Originally Posted by Indy (Post 3759538)
Just dump me in Long Island Sound.

As is or after cremation? :whistle:

Nate5.0 08-22-2012 10:55 AM

Never too early to plan no matter how odd or extreme your idea may be. Like was said check with your family first to assure they too are ok with this, I know it's your life and blah blah blah but they are the ones that will remain here when you are gone and would like closer or a way to remember you in some mind.

I am 30.... I sadly have a full plan, a will, a plot, and a bench already to go.

June 8 2011 I lost my mom to a motorcycle accident on memorial day. She was all I had really, no dad, no step dad, no siblings. Just me my Uncle who we don't really talk to and my Grandparents who at the time were 79 and 94.

She left us at age 56 with no will, no plans, no nothing, or at least nothing that we were aware of and still to this date are unaware of. Talk about a pain in the ass!!!!! It has been just over a year now and i am STILL left picking up pieces and dealing with this.

We lost my Grandfather in March this year and he had preplanned everything. From his will, his plot, the trust, estate, and all. It took about all of a month to get everything in order since his passing and for us to be able to fully move forward in life.



So my advise is to plan everything and talk to your loved ones about everything. Don't leave people in the dark, and be open. EVERYONE hates to deal with this subject but trust me it is one that I wish more people would be open with.

f_inscreenname 08-22-2012 11:24 AM

Last thing I want to do is go through a motor. I've built enough of them over the years and left enough skin and blood behind to for fill that idea already. I also want one of my kids to keep my boat after I'm gone (being its 40+ years old now I would love for it to still to be in the family when it hits 100) and having a bunch of ashes run through it cant be a good thing.
I would like to be scattered on a little island off the coast of Maine where my grandmother is.

Clayfan 08-22-2012 11:49 AM

Few years ago a buddy of mine's Dad passed and he wanted his ashes spread in Lake Erie.

I was asked to take several members of their family (grandchildren and all) on my boat at the time (250 Sea Ray Sundancer) to the site.

It was one of those normal Lake Erie days in late summer, wind about 20 out of the SW and about a 2 ft sea so I was sort of concerned about trying to raft up with the other 3 boat loads of family members and the Minister we took out to say a few words.

Got to tell you, I'm not a very religous guy, but we get out and on station, raft the boats up, the wind dies to nothing, just a nice oily swell, clouds part and the sun beams down.

Explain that!

His ashes were in a plaster cast with flowers around it. One of his sons placed it in the water, the Minister said his few words and we were all silent.

You could see the Plaster cast with the ashes take one dive a little under a swell, then a second and on the thrid swell he was gone.

I can't tell you how great it felt for me that my buddy asked me to join his family and provide transport for this event.


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