Ot. This Sucks
 

On friday 1/10/03 at 3:00 I started closing down my company due to bankruptcy, so we started to celibrate. Little did I know my grandfarthers anurisim was leaking, Well he died at 9:42 on friday. I went to the wake today andf have the funeral tomorrow. All I can say is I hate this, It's to painful.

sorry to hear of your loss........:(

Hope things get better for you and your family.

It can only get better from here.

c'mon guys I needa little support here.

Well look at the bright side. Things are sooo bad now , they HAVE to get better. Just don't ask "what next?" your liable to find out.
Hang in there Bucko:)

It could ALWAYS be worse. Remember that millions of people would be thrilled to only have your problems. Be glad you are not at the funeral with your own terminal disease to battle. I am not trying to belittle your situation, just trying to keep it in perspective. Hang in there man, tough people last, tough times do not......A4

A4 I would rather it be ME, than put my family through losing the family leader.

Our deepest condolences to you and your family. :(

Dan & Vicki

I hear ya man, trust me. Just think of it this way though, would your FAMILY rather it be you? Life can be a real, real bastard. Most of us have gone or will go thru what your are dealing with right now. It can be close to unbearable, but you will never be faced with any adversity you can not overcome. Hang tough bro, the sun is gonna rise tomorrow and you are going to have to make a decision......either cave in or perservear (sp??). Ask yourself what your Grandpa would rather you do, the choice will become more clear every day. Good luck to you and the family. A4

A4 thank you.




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And thank every one else for your kind words.
Pat

Wow, sorry to hear the bad news. Atleast here you have people to talk to. My condolences go out to you and your family.

Les

Sorry to hear the bad news,may he rip, Our condolences and prayers are with you and your family

My condolences on your loss. I'm sure your luck will turn now!

I am very sorry for your loss. I just went to wake last week for a friend she was 38 ,due to illness. You must be strong and go on that is what your grandfather would want.

Sorry about your loss. The timing is just awful. Remember that he is in a better place now and is at piece for eternity.

But, never let small set backs get you down. Hay !!!! your better then that and you can overcome ANYTHING.

Remember, "When the going gets tough, the tough get going". I look back at the many set backs I've had in life, and believe me there were many. I grew from this experience and became a better person, business man, or what ever I wanted to do. Don't get yourself down.....Get up, get going, make plans THINK POSITIVE. You can do it !!!!!!

Take care.

Our condolences to you and your family.
Dave and Michele

Be thankfull for the time that you had him. he must have been a powerfull influence in your life and to every one in your family. I don`t remember my grandfathers and my own father passed away about 13 years ago. Just remember all the good times you had with him and the lessons you learned from him. It helps to remember the funny things that he did and don`t be afraid to chuckle a little while you`r grieving, it helps. I think the best tribute that you can pay to him is to live a good and honorable life. Best wishes and condolences........Roger 1

Thanks guys, I needed a kick in the ass.

Hang in there. We are all here to help you in any way.
I am sorry to hear of your loss....:( :( :(

I was close to my grandfather. My widowed grandfather lived alone. He was getting older and more frail. My grandmother had died 3 years prior and he missed her badly. He still came to the shop three days a week and brought donuts most of the time.

I had been really busy for a couple of weeks with a tricky machine design and had not been spending much time with him when he came to the shop.

He came in one day with a .32 pistol and asked one of the guys if they could clean it for him. I told him I would be happy to do it for him - he quickly said No that Rob would do it for him. He left the gun with Rob, but I had to send Rob out of town to troubleshoot a customer's product line. I remembered the gun and went ahead and cleaned it myself. I wondered what the gun was for - it was just a cheap old no-name .32...

A few days later he told me he was lonely and asked if I would like to bring the kids to eat dinner with him that night. I knew my wife had plans already so I told him maybe next week.

The next morning he did not come in to the shop and it was his normal day. I called his house to check on him but there was no answer. I knew Daddy was on that side of town at the other office so I called him to see if he was free to check on him. He said he could go right then.

I got a weird feeling and took off myself. You guys probably can figure out the rest. (he had shot himself with the .32)

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Two years later, I was driving a group to a football game. Mom and Dad were in the van along with my wife and another couple. There were 2 routes to the stadium and Mom suggested we circle around the city to come in the backside of the stadium. I disagreed and chose to go another route to Lebanon Rd and then to the stadium. Mom said "I really think we'd be better off the other way". Once again, I disagreed. 4 miles later, in a section of roadway where the opposing lanes are separated by a narrow and treacherous median, a girl in the oncoming lane was applying eye makeup at 70mph. She lost control of her car and went off the right side of the roadway. She overcorrected and shot left across the median, became airborne, and crashed through the windshield of my van. Mom and Dad were killed.

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My friend, you have a lot on you right now, with the death of your grandfather and the closing of your business...

I don't have the words to make you feel better, and the truth is that no words CAN make you feel better. I know from my experiences that guilt and second-guessing are natural reactions but do nothing to assist the grieving and healing processes.

I can only tell you that my thoughts and prayers are with you and I certainly hope that continued tragic events will stop long enough for you to emotionally work through the events of last week.

Best of wishes, brother.

M

Pat,
Don't ever wish it were you:mad: .Losing a parent or grand parent is never easy but like it or not it's the normal progression of life. For anyone to lose a child or grandchild is far worse , because there is absolutely no justifacation for it...it's just not right!
I've seen two couples lose kids , one to cancer and another od'ed
and that is REALLY cruel. If you got kids...live for them. Remember , maybe you'll be somebody's grandfather someday:)

Cal (mopower)

Mcollinstn.......geeeezz, sounds like you need a pat on the back as well chief.............Well done........ALLAN

Very sorry to hear of this AA.
My deepest condolences.
Brian

sorry to hear of your loss. just remember its those things that hurt us the most,make us the strongest. just be thankful for all the good times you had with your grandfather, many people never even get that chance. keep your head up!

I understand...
 

Yes it sucks,
I know how you feel :( I lost my mom back in November. It is very difficult to loose someone you love but it will get easier with time, I promiss you!
My condolences to you and your family.

Jacky

My personal opionion, forget that " it could be worse" because this is prolly the hardest time you've ever gone through a man loosing his father is the worst. just try to remember he will allways be with you and watching over. remember only the good.
stay strong, best wishes.
Martin.

Sorry for your losses. I know how that feels, not with my father but with a friend who was 17. The next few weeks will suck, then it gradually gets better, then every once in a while something will trigger it off and it will feel just like it does now for a few hours.