Tempest38

It's [email protected]
or [email protected]

fountain1fan

glad he is home . robbie

blownincome

Cord ... Some Cell phones have built in gps.. I think it has to be on to work but might work? Just a thought ...Glad all is well (Thank God!) My dad is 83 and the thought of him getting disoriented and lost hit home (he is always on the road)
Glad all is well!

CMG

guys, be careful posting your e-mails, sites are routinely searched for addresses and your spammed. Try this
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wannabe

Cord:

I am glad your father has been found. I hate to say this but it sounds as if your father is in the early stages of Alzhheimers. I recommend you take him to a specialist. It is very hard to see this happen to a loved one. You need to find someone in his hometown to check on him daily.

Good luck

Wannabe

Wasabe

Woo hoo! Safe and sound!

candyman35

Cord,
I'm glad everything worked out. I was relieved to finally get to the post that said he was alright. I know how hard this had to be for you. I agree with Wannabe about getting your father evaluated. You need to know so as to start treatment if needed. Hopefully it's just old age and not Alzheimer's.

This thread has shown once again how many caring people we have on OSO. It's great to see people come out to help someone in need. We have a great group of people here.
Dan

rouxsterre

First off, I am relieved to hear that your father has returned safely.

Now for the ugly. . . my wife's grandparents were driving in their eighties. Since it was mostly local they did well, but disorientation was beginning to set in. Then one day, they went unaccounted for. Weeks passed. They were eventually found hundreds of miles away, in an isolated dead-end rural area outside San Diego. Evidently, they got lost, and drove until they ran out of gas. They were found a couple hundred yards outside the vehicle, in a shallow wooded ravine. . . dead, from exposure.

Sure, it's an extreme case - but a simple wrong turn can have TRAGIC consequences if the mind cannot properly function.

My wife's entire family had detectives up their ass for a solid year, because the g'parents had a sizeable amount of assets AND insurance. It was pretty bizarre being part of a 'murder' investigation.

Cord

iTrader: (2)

So I got my weekend phone call from my dad today. He regailed he enjoyed being up here and mentioned having some "problems" getting back home. He didn't remember having told me this earlier in the week. Then he told me something else. He said that he went outside and left the front door open. When he tried to go back inside, he opend the screen door too quickly and that closed the inside door. Naturally, it was locked. He said that he used to have a key hidden outside, but that he must of moved it. Rather than calling a locksmith, he broke a window. A nice and expensive double pane window.

BonnieOutlaw

Cord, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I know first hand how difficult this is. I think that the idea of getting an eval done cannot be underestimated. They have drugs that slow the process down.

While I don't want you to respond on here, I would like for you to think about the following. Have you transferred his assets out of his name? There is a few reasons I'm saying this. First, if it is determined that he has alzheimers, after a period of time he will not be able to stay in the house himself. He will either need to live with one of his kids, or move into a home. All the money he has worked for will be gone...because you have to pay for the home somehow. I'm sure I'll get yelled at for that statement. That aside (as if that wasn't enough) - have you ever gotten those phone call solicitations to refi? If he isn't cognitive, he could be taken advantage of. Can he properly pay his bills? And not just asking him and he says yes, because of a sense of pride. You really need to know the truth (ie look at the bills themselves and see if they're being paid late, in the wrong amounts, or if he has received service interruption notices).

As a family, you should sit down and discuss the situation and come up with a plan together. If one person makes all the decisions, even if they have the best of intentions, it can cause dissention in the family.

And finally, I would talk to a lawyer.

I sincerely wish you well as you deal with this. The emotional toll is draining. It's not easy.