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This is why some people on the powerboat forums dislike me:

I am one messed up kid (at least thats what I think):

Here is my story:

I was born in russia, and I was adopted at 1 yr old, but prematurely. My mom and dad brought me to NY where we live on Long Island. I lived up as a normal kid... when I was a little kid, I played with my toys, with others, made lots of friends, and had an easy life. This was up to kindergarten. When I moved to another house in Manhasset, I went to elementary school, in kindergarten. There were many changes for me, and I didnt like any one of them. We got a live-in au pair from Paris, and we lived in a new neighborhood. I had trouble in kindergarten, and I got frustrated with many things outside of school, that I punched my teacher in the face... and in 1st grade, I had alot of trouble with focusing, and in 2nd grade, my parents tell me that I have a hearing problem, so I get a special device or something to help me. In 3rd grade, I had learning problems (math dyslexia and other learning issues and all this time, I had adhd, behavior problems etc, and this lasted up until 5th grade. In 6th grade, I got weird. Kids hang out with me from time to time, but no one talked to me. I was the one who was quiet, but manly enough. This was when I started to get interested in Cigarette Boats. In 7th grade, lots of girls talked to me, but most of the boys became immature and called me "Gay" and one boy wanted me to ask another boy out, and people called me "not normal" and asked me uncalled for questions. I joined track/cross country, to only be bullied more by the boys and the girls made me do weird things, like ask me "do you think he's hot" (talking about a boy that I should like). I finally got that settled, got the message out that no one should mess with me. I started joining internet forums. My worst experience was when I thought I wouldn't get in trouble for doing something. I impersonated Skip Braver, CEO of Cig Racing... i did get into trouble and Skips lawyer threatened to sue my family or something if this got too deep. Then, other sites banned me.... also, around 7tg grade, my parents and doctors think i might have aspbergers (sp), a disorder for something.... and I got medicine and stuff....
well... here we are... im in 9th grade now, 15 years old, and am becoming a better person,
but this is why I think im stupid:
-i ask too many girls out directly
-i forget something i learned in school even though i learned it 2 seconds ago
- i post up useless stuff (sometimes)
- i cant remember stuff sometimes
-i cant control my self sometimes

And this is what annoys me here:

-when people dont respond to something I ask like "who has more pix or info on this boat

-I give somebody advice and they dont take it

- I post up a cool thread with a cool boat I found, and no one responds

- I post up a thread about finding how many models of a Cig were built (46 RR) and nobody helps me out or takes it seriously.


-------I hope you people understand how hard it is for me sometimes--------

-this is why I am not always my best on forums.

_ I'd like all of you to respect and help me when I ask for it.


-SAM

sam maybe your too young to be on this site. Check out Disney.com This site is geared more for adults

SAM, let me tell u ,,,,,,,,this frum is not just about U ,,,,so dont get upset about some people not answering or even takingyour advise.
Also u are 15 ,,,,,,alot of us have more knolige then u ,,,,some dont ,,,agree. LOL ,,,,,,,,but al in al in the whole world its always about others and i found that out the hard way ,,,,so u got to deal with it ,,,but not on the boards.
The ride i promised u on my boat ,,,,,on the other post ,,,(somewhere),,,is still waiting.
I kind of like kids like u ,,,that are intressted in boats and allthe stuff that comes with it,,,,maybe because i am the same way ,,,or atleast was,,,and sometimes still am ,,,,,what ever ,,just stay focused and dont lie or steel and never judge the other person your dealing with about what they say or do,,,,,if u dont know them personaly,,,,and that will make u better then most of them in all the forums.

Scott:grinser010:

sam, a lot of us admire your passion for powerboats but you have to understand that you are 15 and just about everyone on these forums is your fathers age, we dont hang around with kids in our neighborhoods and we dont want to hang around with kids on the internet. please dont take offense, you seem like a good kid with a great sense of humor (and imagination)

Dont let the kids at school bother you, keep doing the right thing and they will eventually leave you alone. good luck

being a teenager sucks!!!! One week your cool, the next your a jerk.


we all went through that!!!! Your motivated and that's good, soon you'll learn how to focus yourself in a way that doesn't annoy people. It's called growing up.....that's why your not considered "grown up". I suspect you'll be very successful as an adult once you put it all together.

Piece of advise I was given many years ago. God gave us one mouth and 2 ears....use them proportionately!!

I quess all of us are not grown up in some stuff ,,,but yes listen to what we have to say ,,,but think about it befor u do what we said,,,,even grow ups can be mest up .LOL

MBBC, I was a friggin train wreck as a kid, hell I flunked kindergarten. your in a great spot, you love fast boats, and your doing all you can to learn as much as possible about them. you have a dream of having one someday, use this as motivation to kick azz in school. see if your school has college prep/equiv. courses, take a class or 2 at a CC at night. ignore the jackasses at school and study. it wont happen overnight, but soon you will have a degree, a decent job, and a nice boat while most of the guys giving you a hard time in school will probably still be working at the local car wash.

Well said...

I can also relate; your time will come, but maybe not as soon as you would like. Patience and don't ever give up on your dreams. Good luck!

I respect you for throwing all that out there to a bunch of people that don't know you. I am closer in age to you (21) then probably 90% of the members, and after a while, you will realize they are mostly (from what little I know) good guys. Keep your head up, high school is what you make of it. I personally loved just about every minute of high school. When I was younger, about your age, an older friend of mine told me the one thing he wished he did more in high school/university was date. I took that to heart, and it has been one of the greatest things I have ever done. When you say you ask too many girls out directly, do you mean on dates or as a gf? I've always been a numbers person, the more girls I take out on dates....well you get the idea! :evilb:

I'm sorry you don't feel so good about yourself, but it could be a whole lot worse. You did say Manhasset, didn't you, that's millionaire and billionaire territory. I think I could find some other people your age that wish they had it as bad as you. Location wise, I'm pretty close to you and I think I could help. Do some research and look me up. Brett

Being a teenager should be some of the best years of your life,if people are hacking on you ,maybe time for some boxing lessons .

listen to what these guys are saying and remember a couple things. Youre 15 and that is a tough age. You will most likely not see more than one or two of the kids you are going to school with after high school. And you have a lot of time ahead of you to figure it all out. Just have fun, follow your passion for boats and dont sweat it now. I didn't even go to college until I was 21

Sam, while aspbergers syndrome does explain some of your behaviour, it doesn't excuse some of it. It would appear that atleast, you are admitting you have some issues and maybe, just maybe you are willing to work hard to get through some of them BEFORE you are disallowed on every boating forum. Thats good.
I have watched my nephew overcome aspbergers to become a straight A high school student with a bright future in robotics ahead of him. He has had it tough to but he listened to his dad and his uncle and focused his abundant energy on what he found he loved doing. In his case, building competition robots. He also learned that social graces are a very big part of growing up. No one likes daling with a smart mouth "kid".
I know in your PM to me that you stated that you"are not a kid" but I got news for ya, at 15, you most definately are a kid.
I am 3 times your age Sam, not 3 yrs older than you. Thats about the average age of the guys on these sites. We do not pursue relationships with teenagers. Lots of us struggle with relationships with our own kids your age, we cerainly don't need to feel like that when we're online boating. You stated that no one talks to you the way I did and no one tells you what to do. Well, thats part of your problem. You, being an adopted hild of, and I'm guessing here, a successful older professional couple, have most likely been handled with kid gloves instead of boxing gloves. You still believe and act like you should be handed eerything you ask for and when chastised for being an insulant, imature and rude teenager, lash out in anger and disrespect.
You stated above that you want US to respect and HELP you.

STEP ONE: RESPECT IS EARNED, NOT GIVEN TO ANYONE WHO ASKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Stop acting like a kid if you want to EARN the RESPECT of your elders.

STEP TWO: when someone informs you of your mistakes and tells you ow to act properly, don't fire back like you're some kind of tough guy. SHUT THE HLL UP and learn

That was hilarious. Hang in there kid. Stay in school , get a college education and be the first kid in your class to get a new Cigarette. You'll have a story for life!

and the beat goes on

now, if you impersonated Reggie, I could see why you were having some socialization issues..... :party-smiley-004:

haha

LOL :drink:

You just need to lay REALLY low for awhile. You've pulled the classic Internet stunts by outright lying to everyone on like 5 forums. I'm not trying to be harsh, but you've given zero reason for anyone to believe anything you've said, including this sympathy party you're throwing here. Act your age, be proud of who you are and what you have, and STOP lying and impersonating people you idolize. Having Skip's muscle have to notify you of how far past funny you've taken things should be more than enough reason to shape up than anything.

thats a solid advise. took me a LONG time to post on here before i was comfortable.

Damn, If I wanted to read a novel I'd pick up Harry Potter or something:angry-smiley-038::rolleyes:

The best advice I could possibly give you Sam.... learn an instrument. Fast. You can get away with being you if you are a kick azz musician by the time you are 18.

Many people with aspergers put their "monster" on a leash and use it for good purposes. There are often special talents or capabilities hidden among the awkward social aspects of aspergers.
And being from Russia... the aspergers is probably not BS.
Tap into it and lay low.

Thats nice that you live on Long Island. In Manhasset, every boy and girl only focus on sports and stuff and that is something I was never born for...

hey kid dont worry about it, we all have issues....

everyone cant be perfect like me.... but you can have fun trying...:evilb::evilb:


just remeber our little talks and all will be well......

Do not talk to the guy behind the curtian (Stez)

No one will like you as an adult if you start lisining to stez they will bully you even more

be afraid be very afraid

Marc - You forgot your best piece of advice, " The best way to make a few friends is get involved in the boating industry with allot of friends". MR:drink:

I was thinking.... who lives on Long Island and can get me a ride on a fast boat??

Sam,

Bro 15 is a hard age, and I hate to inform you it gets harder. However most people would love to be 15 again, it took me until I was 16 to realize you only get one shot at this. Dude you need to be chasing girls, going to parties, playing sports,Traveling, and making grades.

On a personal note, if you are having a hard time at school, reinvent yourself. I am serious, think of what you want, do you want to be surrounded by friends, people are attracted to other fun people . You want girls, learn to play the guitar (it works). You want respect, stand your ground, help another out.

Let me give you an example, when i was 15, Hip Hop had just become popular (Iam 32 now), I wanted to be the guy getting grinded on by the hot little sluts in school, but I had ZERO dance ability. So I practiced, and watched others, and sometimes made a fool of myself, but by16, I was the guy on the dance floor with a girl on each side.

WILL:ernaehrung004:

Sam some people don't think fighting is a good thing but if you are being bullied you will have to man up and turn it around. All it will take is for you to swing on one of the tougher kids and all the bullying will come to a halt. Bullies look for targets that take it, if you show them you aren't going to take it they will move on to someone that does.
When I was in basic training at 17 I was bullied by another recruit, I dropped him on his head and gave him 12 stitches, this turned me into a hero cuz nobody liked this guy and it calmed the bully down for the rest of our training.

Quit being a putz and nail them in the nose next time the f with you. Then hit them again. You look a little scrawny so ff that doesn't work (dare I say) nut shot then a kick to the head to stand them back up.

Now back to things that matter- what about this au pair and where is the nanny cam at boy?!?!?

I have a few ways of dealing with people who come up in my face and act like a little pu**y...

"Watch what your sayin!"
"Think who your messin with"
"You want to mess with me??? I dont think so"

.... then, I walk away..

laying low would be a good idea

Yes, it's a good idea. But, apart from my disabilities and other issues, I also do good things:
-help out autistic kids everyday in their special class at school

I have Aspergers. My son is 15. So I can relate somewhat to your position. High school was the worst part of my life, but it got better and better from there. Now I have a boat, and instead of dealing with people, I go out on my boat. Just be patient.

Kid I was once there, 15, not yet a man, not really a kid, and I did some crazy ****.
Impersonating Skip, thats funny-thats real funny, but hey we all did stupid stuff and we grew from it-its a learning experience.
I'll say this when I was your age I had a passion for Cadillacs and when I was older I owned a few beauty's so keep your passion going but like I was told lay low, be cool and listen alot like I didnt do and you'll get there.
Good luck bud.

Skip you better hit the fast food joints at least 3 times a day if you start now you'll catch him:evilb:P.S I know sobody right in Manhassett he's your age backwards he'll help if its not a Skip scam:rolleyes:

I dont eat fast food always, I drink and eat other foods.... fo real.

and at the end of the day...
 

just be yourself (your REAL self) - not Skip, or the LI gangsta, or whatever... Even though chicks dig scars, don't get 'em the hard way by being a smartazz, or a dumbazz! Don't be afraid to be humble, respect people and they'll respect you back - you don't need to "be the man" to be the man. And if all else fails, dedicate the extra time you have to the books - you can never learn too much or study too hard. Something that I have found works really well, surround yourself with good - positive people and good things WILL happen!

Your mouth can get you into trouble - your brains should keep you out... and maybe get you into one of these! :cool:

Thats some pretty good info!!! I've always wanted to ride in a Skater before!!!

Yea, that is hilarious about the Skip Braver thing. Just a good lesson that there's consiquences for everything. Everyone has tough times, with that said just focus on bettering yourself and you'll find things will get better. Also if somone is bulling you stand up for yourself. Even if it ends up in a fight you will survive and pain is temporary. One time standing up for yourself and you won't be bullied anymore. Just don't antagonize the people picking on you. Also don't pick on anyone, you may think it's ok since its happening to you and you pick a weaker person. If you really suck at fighting then best stand up for yourself at school or somewhere you think it'll get broken up quick.