True that! I've had some I "loaned" a few hundred to here and there over the years on different occasions for different reasons and, as I wrote the check, I knew I'd never see it back. Like you said...you either commit to never getting it back or you let it eat you up.

When it comes to business deals on a handshake, of late...I've taken a hosing and given the same in return. The lesson I learned is handshakes and good words are for crap...set dates, make the expectations clear and put it in writing. Works much better. Pity though....I miss the days of a handshake being the seal of the deal.