now its the time to buy the boat
you have our blessings;)

Well... it could be worse... earlier this year, my ex and I were moving in together, she didn't like the loft where I lived, so I was buying a new house that she picked out with me. I sold my loft, and was two weeks from moving in together when I found out she was sleeping with someone that she... works with... I will put it that way for over a year before we met and was still doing it....

There's a lot of experience on this board:cool: Keep going and don't look back... it'll save a lot af grief later on:)

Great idea Spectre!

Oh you soooooo don't wanna know my tale on these women........F'em bro....I have learned ONE DAMN thing from women.......A Liar is always a LIAR........if you had any idea of how much I cared about this stupid ***** and what I did for her to the Last day......it would make you puke.......well that's all over and done with now!........and to repay me and show some form of gratitude she slapped a restraining order on my arse......WTF.....I have never laid a hand on any female and never would........I just don't have that in me.....and to boot a couple weekends ago i was out wiht my new girl and the EX ***** walked up behind me and dumped a drink on my head......right down my $90 shirt and $125 pants and right on my F#$%in Rolex!!!!.........and still what the F#$% did i do......Nothing.....I swear to god i am a F#$%ing *****.......that or either I know she's hurting and that makes it all worth it for me.......My girl started to jump up and i grabbed her arm and said "NO.....ignore her!".....that will do more to her than going after her.....:hothead:

Every ten days this PSYCHO has done something totally out of line with having a restraining order.......makes NO sense but then again neither did our relatonship.........I moved on and couldn;t be happier.......:D

Stay the F#$% away from that chick.....desperate girls are dangerous to say the least......believe it when you read it bro......later Terry

DUDE.....you sound upset

SURE!.... OK so it has been awhile... sorry for the delay in a responce... I have been dealing with my own "women" problems...:rolleyes:

Umm.......dissapointed to the utmost is more like it...I am not mad at her at all......that's just not me.....I don't work like that.......but she has some seriuos issues that need addressing....and she drug me through the mud with her.....luckily I climbed out of her "mud" only losing time and money.......I'm just a little concerned that the girl I am with now will brunt the fruit of my Ex's labor........know what I mean......I have developed some seriuos trust issues with women now......it ain't pretty to say the least.....but at least I know and I will keep an eye on my "attitude" towards my new girl.......she's wonderful and has ZERO in common to do with my EX other than she Rocks in bed...:eek:

Believe me...I can definately relate

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Don't get me started....I pay $1350.00 a month in Child support (no Alimony). I have 2 files in my cabinet filled with letters, audio tape, video..Not that kind!!!!....We all make mistakes ,I made two, work thru it!! I have a bright spot , when I turn 50......
no more dealing with the ex's, house will be paid for, I get a huge raise..........11.5 years to go!:D

get the boat, what cha waitin for!!??
 

like I said before, you have our blessings!!

Your Way Better Off!!!!!better now than when she's entitled to half of everything you own...been there done that! Pick yourself up and go looking for a new Boat, the chick's wont be far behind!

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The latest on my situation. She called four days after leaving, we had good communication, I then gave her a week of no contact. Then sent 2 doz red roses and a letter(good ofcourse). I get emailed back to stop trying to contact her that things will be easier if I focused on the future, and I will make some girl very happy some day. What a load of crap! How do you go from making progress to everything just falling off the cliff?????? I don't get it. I think she make be talking to a shrink because she would never be able to put that email together, she does not talk like that. I am now very confused. Oh yeah and quite PO'ed. She is really confused I think. How do you go from hot to cold? She told me she got a month to month ease in case things worked out, and then this?????????????????Any words of wisdom?????

Trader...this sounds alot like something I went through back in '97.

Back and forth...wishy washy. and she was seeing a counseler..ie shrink..

Bottom line....It will not work....just move on

I've followed this thread since the beginning.
I felt sorry for you, still do. I see there's several others who had bad experiences in the past.

Listen to them. They're right.
It's time to just turn and walk away. The more you try to patch it up the worse it'll get. The more times you try communicating the more she'll mess with your head. Some woman really get off on doing that with men. She's got you wrapped around her little finger, and she knows it.

Stop sending flowers.
Stop sending notes.
Change your phone numbers and make them unlisted.
Break off all communication.
Change the locks. This is a must!
Screen your office calls for while till she quits calling.
If she continues to attemp contact, get a restraining order.

It seems like you still have very strong feelings toward her.
I know it'll hurt for a while but you've got to move on.
The sooner you stop and get on with life, the sooner you'll get over it.

This is just my opinion. A view from the outside.
What you do now is up to you.

Trader1,

Dude face the facts, it will never be the same and you will never trust her again. I know how painfull it is but you have to move on and start new. This is your chance to save your diginity, if you let her back in she "will" pull the same thing you are going to hate yourself. Swear off chicks for awhile and occupy yourself with things that you really enjoy, trust me it will make a huge difference and you will definitly gain self confidence.

Iggy speaks with wisdom. This chick sounds like a real wack job. It seems that she has caused a great deal of pain in your life, How much more do you want? It hurts ,I know but you should consider yourself a lucky man. You still get to keep your stuff!
Roger 1

They are ALL whack jobs after the relationship ends.

My advice: Quit trying to contact her. Channel the sadness and anger into your job and the gym. The next time she sees you, you are healthy and better looking than she remembers, and you have a promotion/fatter wallet, and a hot chic on your arm.

Trust me -- My girlfriend and I broke up 12/30. I am happy and doing fine. BTW -- I am certainly not a health nut or body builder, but right after the breakup, the best I felt was when I left the gym.

My thoughts exactly. esecially the part about hitting the gym. Nothing is better than lifting weights and pushing yourself to be stronger. And your confidence level increases as well...nothing like getting bigger/better looking. And the increased endorphins generated from a workout help to keep from getting depressed about the situation.
Keep your chin up and don't worry....lots of women (without head problems) out there. I should know....:D :rolleyes:

Trader....I am disappointed in you....I gave you all that good free advice and you go and send her flowers...WTF are you thinking...Man been right where you are and I did all the same things...I WAS STUPID AS HELL...Take it from me. They never want what they can have...it is the exact opposite of that. Set your sights on making her believe you are the winner and she is the looser in this war of the hearts. Smile each and every time you see her....but don;t speak to her...if you do then the war is on all over again... Man I was with maine for 10 years when she moved out on me....This was two years ago..guess what ,she pulled the exact same with me as your did...restraining order because I sent the flowers...Well, the tables are turned now. Three months after she moved out she saw me out on the lake with my new girl...The phone rang off the hook that night...NOPE did not answer....then e-mails...she used to refuse to answer mine but now she is e-mailing me three times a day..NOPE...never answered....I live on a dead end street...you guessed it she now rides by to see what's up....NOPE will not wave at her...Get the picture? Incidently...her next move will be the old "let's be friends" deal...This is just cheese in the old trap for the rat (you). Don't go there either...Hang in there man...you will respect yourself down the road for doing it the right way.
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