Macklin

Bryan, sorry to hear this. I was in your position many years ago when my first wife decided she did not want to be married anymore. FIRST.....get a separation agreement in place! I went to an attorney/friend for that. We ended up using the same attorney for the divorce, which after one year of separation, was rather easy.....no fault divorce. We kept things very amicable throughout the process, which is definitely the best way to go. I count my lucky stars on that one!!

Best of luck to you!

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Offshore Addiction

geez,I wish somebody would email this to my soon to be ex.........her lawyers dumin than her!filin every court case possible,shes draggin the kids in soon!so best of luck to ya!!!!!

GeeterB

I think you should get an attorney. Maybe both use the same 1.
No real issues between you shouldn't be too difficult. But the downside for both of you would be doing something wrong and either of you buy a house, car, bigger boat , etc., get your credit run and the other has scortched you credit rating !
This is protecting both parties. Get an attorney or it may bite you in the butt later. Attorneys are a neccessary part of life. Some great, some suck, but they're still needed...MHO

Phknlwyr

I like the advice about being generous with material matters and stingy with the kids. That is some seriously sage advice.

Unless you can trace your assets back to inheritance, funds that you had before the marriage (which have never been co-mingled with other "joint" funds), or gifts, you had better be prepared to give up half of it. You may, of course, bargain for and negotiate just about anything. If you are able to agree upon the division of assets and how to handle the children, it makes sense to them go to an attorney for the purpose of drafting the Separation Agreement which can then be enrolled into your decree of divorce.

Watch out for the following: party responsible for college tuition, use and possession of the marital home, age of children when support stops (18 or 21), period of alimony payments, party responsible for health insurance, life insurance, just to name a few. The point being that you may agree on large matters but these little, hidden ones add up and may drastically affect the financial basis for your agreement on the large, material matters. Meet with an attorney - one who concentrates their practice in family law matters - if only to pick their brain about potential trouble spots. Would you buy a boat without a survey?

Best of luck, life goes on, and don't sweat the petty things and don't petty the sweaty things.

tanned fat looks better

No offense DJ, but I think everyone else's advice is better.

Thanks everyone for the input. I still don't know what I'm going to do.

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