Key West Very Near Some Pics To Pump It Up!
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Re: Key West Very Near Some Pics To Pump It Up!
Mike,
The PM you refer to receiving is a classic example of the behavior of a person who is what is commonly known as a “bully”. This type of behavior needs to be recognized and addressed. A bully, especially one who gains a position of assumed or perceived power within a group or organization, can be extremely destructive.
The Field Foundation has a website, http://www.bullyonline.org/ that has some very valuable information on the subject. Here are some of the highlights:
What is bullying?
Bullying is persistent unwelcome behaviour, mostly using unwarranted or invalid criticism, nit-picking, fault-finding, also exclusion, isolation, being singled out and treated differently, being shouted at, humiliated, excessive monitoring, having verbal and written warnings imposed
Why do people bully?
The purpose of bullying is to hide inadequacy. Therefore, anyone who chooses to bully is admitting their inadequacy, and the extent to which a person bullies is a measure of their inadequacy. Bullies project their inadequacy on to others:
A bully is a person who
The bully selects their target using the following criteria:
The PM you refer to receiving is a classic example of the behavior of a person who is what is commonly known as a “bully”. This type of behavior needs to be recognized and addressed. A bully, especially one who gains a position of assumed or perceived power within a group or organization, can be extremely destructive.
The Field Foundation has a website, http://www.bullyonline.org/ that has some very valuable information on the subject. Here are some of the highlights:
What is bullying?
Bullying is persistent unwelcome behaviour, mostly using unwarranted or invalid criticism, nit-picking, fault-finding, also exclusion, isolation, being singled out and treated differently, being shouted at, humiliated, excessive monitoring, having verbal and written warnings imposed
Why do people bully?
The purpose of bullying is to hide inadequacy. Therefore, anyone who chooses to bully is admitting their inadequacy, and the extent to which a person bullies is a measure of their inadequacy. Bullies project their inadequacy on to others:
a) to avoid facing up to their inadequacy and doing something about it;
b) to avoid accepting responsibility for their behaviour and the effect it has on others, and,
c) to reduce their fear of being seen for what they are, namely a weak, inadequate and often incompetent individuals, and,
d) to divert attention away from their inadequacy
What bullies fear most is exposure of their inadequacy and being called publicly to account for their behavior and its consequences. This makes sense when you remember that the purpose of bullying is to hide inadequacy, and people who bully to hide their inadequacy are often incompetent.b) to avoid accepting responsibility for their behaviour and the effect it has on others, and,
c) to reduce their fear of being seen for what they are, namely a weak, inadequate and often incompetent individuals, and,
d) to divert attention away from their inadequacy
A bully is a person who
· has never learnt to accept responsibility for their behaviour
· wants to enjoy the benefits of living in the adult world, but who is unable and unwilling to accept the responsibilities that are a prerequisite for being part of the adult world.
· abdicates and denies responsibility for their behaviour and its consequences (abdication and denial are common features of bullying)
· is unable and unwilling to recognise the effect of their behaviour on others
· does not want to know of any other way of behaving
· is unwilling to recognise that there could be better ways of behaving.
How do bullies select their targets?· wants to enjoy the benefits of living in the adult world, but who is unable and unwilling to accept the responsibilities that are a prerequisite for being part of the adult world.
· abdicates and denies responsibility for their behaviour and its consequences (abdication and denial are common features of bullying)
· is unable and unwilling to recognise the effect of their behaviour on others
· does not want to know of any other way of behaving
· is unwilling to recognise that there could be better ways of behaving.
The bully selects their target using the following criteria:
· bullies are predatory and opportunistic - you just happen to be in the wrong place at the wrong time; this is always the main reason - investigation will reveal a string of predecessors, and you will have a string of successors
· being good at your job, often excelling
· being popular with people (colleagues, customers, clients, pupils, parents, patients, etc)
· more than anything else, the bully fears exposure of his/her inadequacy and incompetence; your presence, popularity and competence unknowingly and unwittingly fuel that fear
· being the expert and the person to whom others come for advice, either personal or professional (ie you get more attention than the bully)
· having a well-defined set of values which you are unwilling to compromise
· having a strong sense of integrity (bullies despise integrity, for they have none, and seem compelled to destroy anyone who has integrity)
· having at least one vulnerability that can be exploited
· being too old or too expensive (usually both)
· refusing to join an established clique
· showing independence of thought or deed
· refusing to become a corporate clone and drone
· being good at your job, often excelling
· being popular with people (colleagues, customers, clients, pupils, parents, patients, etc)
· more than anything else, the bully fears exposure of his/her inadequacy and incompetence; your presence, popularity and competence unknowingly and unwittingly fuel that fear
· being the expert and the person to whom others come for advice, either personal or professional (ie you get more attention than the bully)
· having a well-defined set of values which you are unwilling to compromise
· having a strong sense of integrity (bullies despise integrity, for they have none, and seem compelled to destroy anyone who has integrity)
· having at least one vulnerability that can be exploited
· being too old or too expensive (usually both)
· refusing to join an established clique
· showing independence of thought or deed
· refusing to become a corporate clone and drone
09-19-2006, 07:10 AM
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Re: Key West Very Near Some Pics To Pump It Up!
Here are 17 Links to photos from KW last year:
SBI/APBA Photo Links
Thank you all who contributed in getting these photos online!
Enjoy!
SBI/APBA Photo Links
Thank you all who contributed in getting these photos online!
Enjoy!
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